The Problem of Success for INFJs and INFPs

Lauren Sapala
3 min readAug 13, 2023


INFJ and INFP personality types are two of the MBTI types that tend to have the most trouble feeling successful in life. It’s a problem that not many of us talk about, but almost all of us deal with at one time or another.

We might work a stressful, demanding job and not be paid very much, or we might always be taken advantage of at work. We might be passed over for promotions. We also have trouble feeling successful in our social lives. Many INFJ and INFP personality types feel like most of the people in our social circle don’t appreciate our quiet gifts.

Much of the time, we blame ourselves, and we tell ourselves that we’re not cut out for success in our society. But we know we want more, and we know that, deep down, we do want to feel successful in life. We want to have nourishing relationships with others, and financial ease.

A big part of the problem for INFJ and INFP personality types is that we block ourselves from having those things, and the main reason we block ourselves is guilt. This is because INFJs and INFPs tend to carry a strong, underlying sense of guilt throughout life. We feel guilty about having what we need when so many others in the world are suffering. We also feel guilty that certain things come easily to us because of our talents and gifts, and they don’t come easily to others. We sometimes feel guilty for taking up space, or for even existing.

So, when an INFJ or INFP personality type thinks about being successful and having the things we want in life, we also then immediately feel guilty for wanting those things.

I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class exploring all this and more, called “Manifesting Abundance for INFJs and INFPs,” and it starts on Thursday, August 24.

We will be learning how to manifest abundance in our creative lives, our financial lives, in our relationship with our authentic selves, and with other people. We will be exploring what has held us back up until this point, how to dissolve fear and other blocks, and how to move forward into a new, improved experience of life.

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I’ve been wanting to do a class on manifestation for INFJs and INFPs for a long time, and with the change of the seasons almost upon us, I think this is the perfect time to do it. I’m really excited to see where this class takes everyone. I hope you’ll join us!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer, The INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Energy and Intuition for INFJs, an online course for INFJs on intuition, relationships, creativity, and more. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy.



Lauren Sapala

Writer. Writing Coach. Author of The INFJ Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World’s Rarest Type.