Why INFJs and INFPs Don’t Fit In
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often struggle with fitting into society because we hold different values than most of the mainstream population. Mainstream society tends to value competition and aggression, and also tends to focus on scarcity, winning, domination, and right vs. wrong.
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are natural healers and hold the values of healer consciousness, which is focused on compassion, harmony, seeing all sides of a situation, and holding opinions lightly, so as to allow room for movement and change. These kinds of values and this kind of focus can feel threatening and confusing to many people in mainstream society.
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to run into problems because we so badly want to be understood by others. So, when we realize that our values clash with the values of most other people in the mainstream, we usually decide to try harder to explain where we are coming from and why we feel the way we do. However, this doesn’t often work and we only end up in a deeper conflict with the other party, and feeling worse about ourselves.
I talk more about this in the video below:
I’m teaching a new class starting August 28 called Healing the Wounded Healer, and we’ll be exploring the values of healer consciousness, as well as how we can embody our values and speak our truth about our values in a more empowered way.
In Healing the Wounded Healer we’ll be talking about:
Finding balance with our healing/empath gifts
Reclaiming our voice and our truth (especially in relationships)
How to deal with low-vibration people and situations
Healing deep levels of personal shame
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I hope I see you in this class!
Lauren Sapala is the author of Writing on the Intuitive Side of the Brain, The INFJ Writer, The INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Energy and Intuition for INFJs, an online course for INFJs on intuition, relationships, creativity, and more. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy.
