Why INFJs Can’t Get What They Want Out of Life

Lauren Sapala
2 min readAug 15, 2023


One of the questions I hear the most often from INFJ personality types is:

How come I’m always dissatisfied?

Many INFJs feel like they are never content in life, and most of us blame ourselves. We believe it’s a problem with our own perspective, or an issue with us not being grateful enough for what we have. But this isn’t just a “you” problem, this is an INFJ problem.

For INFJ personality types, experiencing a high quality of life is very important. We’re not satisfied with just having a steady job that pays the bills, and sharing social connections with people just because we have a few superficial things in common.

INFJs need to feel the abundance of life through adventures and experiences. We want loving relationships full of connection, and financial freedom and financial ease. We also want security.

However, we tend to struggle with owning our needs for all of these things, and this struggle is rooted in us not knowing who we really are. INFJ personality types are always so tuned into the people around us, that it’s hard for us to know what we really want, and what we only think we want because it would make everyone else happy.

I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class exploring all this and more, called “Manifesting Abundance for INFJs and INFPs,” and it starts on Thursday, August 24.

We will be learning how to manifest abundance in our creative lives, our financial lives, in our relationship with our authentic selves, and with other people. We will be exploring what has held us back up until this point, how to dissolve fear and other blocks, and how to move forward into a new, improved experience of life.

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I’ve already heard from a lot of people that a class on manifestation is exactly what they need at this time. I’m really excited to see where this class takes everyone. I hope you’ll join us!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer, The INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Energy and Intuition for INFJs, an online course for INFJs on intuition, relationships, creativity, and more. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy.



Lauren Sapala

Writer. Writing Coach. Author of The INFJ Writer: Cracking the Creative Genius of the World’s Rarest Type. www.laurensapala.com